Well, dear readers, you’ll all be glad to know that I have made a decision in the great debate over keeping my married name, which we will call “Waechter” or taking back my maiden name, which we will call “Smith”.
I appreciate all of you who weighed in on the issue and gave your two-cents. I considered each of your opinions as I tried to decipher my own. One commenter asked me to consider which name I was more proud of. Quite honestly, I have done nothing to dishonor either name – I feel proud of myself as both names. Oddly enough, I associate the name “Waechter” with my “teacher self” rather than my “married self”, perhaps because in “teacher world” I am known more by my last name than my first.
However, what it came down to was this… I am obviously not looking for a serious relationship right away. I want to take things slow and figure out who I am while having some fun. But, I am only 29 and do expect that at some point I will get married again. It may sound silly, but I want to start that new life with my future husband without the visual reminder of my past for all of our friends and family to see on our wedding invitations and programs. With that said, the verdict is in… I’m going to back to “Smith”. (JMJ – are you super pumped, or what!?)
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YAY!!!!!
ReplyDeleteoh my goodness i AM super pupmed!!
im soo happy i cant believe it and i know it wasnt an easy decision but im really really proud that you want to go back to "smith"!!
Congratulations on making a decision! I was married for a very short period of time about 11 years ago (I was 21) to my high school sweetheart. When we got married it just didn't work out the way it was supposed to, or how we thought it was supposed to. I changed my name back to my maiden name because I didn't feel comfortable keeping someone's name that I didn't feel I had long enough to claim as my own. Everyone has their own reasons....but I'm secretly glad for you because your husband is a poopface.
ReplyDeletewell, it couldn't have been easy and I'm happy to know that you spend a lot of time thinking about it and weighing your options.
ReplyDeleteI think your family will be honored to have you share the last name with them again.
That man doesn't deserve a girl like you using his name anyway!
He is definately a Poopface!
SJ