Happy 23rd of the Month!

Wow – three months today! I remember, when this all “began” people would tell me that I was lucky that I found out when I did, rather than ten years from now or after we had kids. I would smile politely, nod my head and say “yah, I know” but really I was secretly cursing the person in my head. (Sorry, but I was.) I can tell you now with absolute certainty that those people were 100% correct and I am now saying the same thing! Recently I was speaking to someone whom I’ve met since all of this started and the person, whose sibling has gone through a somewhat similar situation, commented that they were amazed by how “normal” and “not soured” I was. How funny, is that!? The truth is there is absolutely nothing that excuses infidelity; what Soon To Be Mr. Ex did was wrong – in my eyes and God’s. However, what’s done is done. Plus as I have said from day one, I believe wholeheartedly that everything happens for a reason, even when we don’t understand what the reason is. The reason is now clear as a bell. Soon To Be Mr. Ex and I wanted very different things out of life and in all probability our marriage would have ended due to those differences (i.e. I wanted kids and contrary to what he was telling me, he didn’t) once they had been revealed even if he had never had an affair. So what good does it do me to be a Man-Despising-Marriage-Hater? Not much! Its funny how once you move into true acceptance, the anger just vanishes and you can welcome your new life ~ whatever it brings, even if it’s different than “the plan”. Happy (yes HAPPY) 23rd of the month!!!