Okay, I have tried to hold myself back from weighing in on this. However, with the recent admission of John Edwards that he did in fact father a child with his mistress and the headline allegations that Tiger Woods tried to cover up his affair with Rachel Uchitel (and the slew of harlots who then came out of the woodwork) by calling her on the phone the night before the story broke and having her speak to his wife, telling Elin that the whole thing was a lie, I can no longer refrain…
First of all, SHAME ON THESE MEN (and all other men and women) who have cheated on their spouses! Marriage is about a commitment that you have made to another person and, even if you take all religious connotations out of it, there is no excuse for being unfaithful. If you are truly that unhappy with your relationship then TALK to your spouse.
Second, if you are in fact a no-good-cheater, for goodness sakes at least be honest about it. I HATE lies, which even my six and seven year old students can attest to; lying only makes the situation worse. There is no such thing as lying to try and ease the situation nor does it help to tweak your lies as a way of lessening someone else’s pain. (Trust me, this is what Soon-To-Be Mr. Ex did and it actually just hurt me more… it was just a kiss with so-and-so; okay it wasn’t her it was what’s her name and we did sleep together, but it was just once; well actually it was more than once, it’s been on-going.) So you made a mistake and you got caught with your pants down, just ADMIT IT from the get go.
To the mistresses… On what planet do you live that you think it is somehow acceptable to sleep with another woman’s husband? Look at both John Edwards and Tiger Woods ~ it’s not a secret that either of the two were married; in fact, both had fairly publicized marriages. So I ask you, what kind of a woman sleeps with a married man? (I think we all know the answer to that one.) There is NOTHING you can say to justify your actions, not: well their marriage was unhappy; his wife just doesn’t understand him; or he made the choice, I just went with it – I was doing nothing wrong. Face the fact: YOU are just as much to blame. And yes, despite what you may think, you DO owe the wife an apology.
Finally, to Elizabeth and Elin and every other woman (and man), famous or not, who has been cheated on: you are strong and beautiful and your husband (or wife) was a fool. Pray for strength and clarity and do what is best for YOU, regardless of what others think of your decisions. You have to decide if you want to stay and try and repair the damage or if you want to kick your spouse to the curb – no one can judge your decisions until they have walked with you.
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i'm very sad and so is my daughter. my husband cheated on me for months with a woman who i've seen before, and lives right near my house. i thought he would have the decency to not make me feel like a fool, coming in at 6am in the morning, treating me horrible so it looked like we fought all the time so he would have a reason to tell people that he wasn't happy. this whole entire mess broke me down, my daughter down and our lives. how does anyone think its okay to cheat? why do husbands do this and why did this woman think it was okay? she was married before and has two girls of her own, but i guess since they are not little kids anymore like my daughter, she doesn't have to worry about them being hurt. this shows her daughters how to lie, cheat and steal. 15 years of my life to end like this. his family walked away from me who were supposed to be my family as well. celebrity or not, it is an embarrassment and these social networks are making it easier for people to cheat. bill hartzell and maura keenan-alexander from philadelphia deserve each other, they are awful people who have no values.
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